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Dear FO' brothas,

What is the most positive approach in getting to know another same-sex loving black-bro. Inviting him over for dinner? or going out to a mutual setting? just letting things unfold?


Brotha Jonathan:

It is a jungle out there in the dating world, and you must proceed with caution. There's no question that first dates can be nerve-wracking. What to wear? What to say? Where to go? But even more than that, you need to determine, what is it that you are looking for, are you interested in a long-term committed relationship? Are you looking for a meaningful overnight relationship (one-night stand)? Are you looking to date with no strings? Or, plain and simple are you just looking for sex? I think after you answer these questions for yourself, you can proceed in where, what and who to look for. If it's your first date, go out, Make it memorable!!! AND Unique!!! Be creative.

Take a little time to think it through. Lunch or coffee is a good start, even better - a trip to the zoo. Help him feel comfortable; thank the other person for the date - always, without exception. Focus on him - pay attention to your date. No wandering eyes. Be THERE! Listen actively to what he has to say. Don't interrupt. While he is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn. Attitudes and habits is important also- stay positive.

Good luck brotha!



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